LOVE SECRETS TO A WOMAN

WHAT A PASSIONATE SUBJECT !....

Our parents, our educators always speak about LOVE.
Writers, poets, singers of all times celebrate LOVE.
Everybody wants to be loved.
We have been created to love one another.

LOVE IS ESSENTIAL TO MANKIND
Without LOVE we cannot evolve.
Children need the LOVE  of their parents
The young  need  the affection  of their brothers and sisters, their friends.
Husbands and wives need the LOVE of one another.
The worker needs to LOVE  his work and be recognised

WITHOUT LOVE
Families will no longer exist.
So many problems are destroying  the young  who lack their parents affection, have no fathers to limit them, to give them discipline in their life, to show them the way to wisdom.  Fathers and  mothers work so hard, they are tired and have no time to give to them, to listen to them, to give them answers. They  are frustrated of something precious.   Confused -  they  become  rebels . Their
immature friends tend to  replace  parents and give them wrong answers.

FAMILY IS ESSENTIAL FOR THE HEALTH , SECURITY,  HAPPINESS OF A NATION

WITHOUT LOVE
The world we know will COLLAPSE , DISAPPEAR .  Wars will be raging in the universe,
PEOPLE WILL KILL EACH OTHER , WILL HATE ONE ANOTHER, BECAUSE THEY WOULD HAVE  FORGOTTEN  THE NECESSITY TO LOVE.

 THEY WON'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE.

MANKIND WILL BE FULL OF GREED . HE  WOULD NOT SHARE  LANDS, FOOD, GOODS.
FAMINE WILL BE EVERYWHERE,  WITH DISEASES AND THEIR  DEATH TOLL.

The rich will be richer, and the poor poorer.

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WE ARE HERE TO LEARN TO LOVE ,
TO ADD OUR LITTLE STONE  TO THE CONSTRUCTION   OF  THE  UNIVERSE,
THE SOCIETY IN WHICH WE LIVE.

Because we are humane, sinners, imperfect, we fail at times.  We hurt those we love.  OFTEN WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE .  We are like handicapped of a knowledge we  no longer
possess. It seems that daily  life  with all its struggles , difficulties does not allow  us enough time .
We are in a rush to live it to the full, to acquire belongings, riches. And in the end we are empty handed and unhappy.

WE LIKE TO BE LOVED FIRST, BUT WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO RECIPROCATE.
We want the  pleasures of life , not  its obligations.

TRUE LOVE BRINGS JOY, HAPPINESS.
It gives us peace of mind .  We feel secure to give our best in our family, in our work,
to help  our brothers in need outside.
LOVE BRIGHTENS EVERY THING.
LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL.

BUT LOVE HAS A PRICE.
HAPPINESS HAS A PRICE.

LOVE DEMANDS MUTUAL CONCESSIONS, SELF SACRIFICE   -
GIVE AND TAKE   -  FORGIVE AND FORGET.

MARRIAGE IS HOLY , IT IS BLESSED BY GOD  AND IS YOUR ROAD TO HOLINESS

It is made of toils, fatigue,  patience, trust , compassion, generosity,  respect,  laughs and  tears.
Watch upon YOUR LOVE,  care for it,  protect it,  see  to it grows in the
right direction.

LOVE  IS A DIAMOND  WHICH REVEALS ITSELF  AFTER MANY YEARS  of  living
together with the same companion.
This is why  '  50 years of marriage '  is called ' Diamond wedding  anniversary '

THIS IS THE LAW OF LIFE
EVERYTHING THAT IS PRECIOUS TO US ,  WE HAVE TO PROTECT , TO TAKE CARE
OF.

FIGHT FOR  YOUR LOVE  .
NEVER GIVE UP

Give it a priority.
But also   LEARN TO ACCEPT WHAT YOU CANNOT CHANGE.

THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN
LOVE, LIVE WITH YOUR HEART

TRUST LIFE  -  LIFE WILL REWARD YOU.
TRUST THE LOVE OF GOD.
If you are faithful to Him, he will be faithful to you.  He will listen to your prayers -
With Him, you will be victorious.

WHOM TO CHOOSE ?
AVOID  :   The young whose personality is still incomplete, has not proved himself.
He may make promises, his feelings may be sincere, the urges of his body strong, but as
his situation  in life is  still confused,  his future   uncertain.   So many  events he is unaware of
may happen. He may be called far away.  He  may meet new women to whom he may feel attracted.   It  will be difficult for him  to love to last.  Both of you will suffer.

The woman more so, because she is spiritual, she loves with her heart  and soul and is called to bear life.

So WAIT , let him grow strong, prove himself, have a good job.  Be good friends, Do not hurry.  Do not make promises.

FAR FROM YOU  : Alcohol, drugs, pornographs,  sex addicts, gamblers, rancorous, envious, violent, womanisers, those who don't respect their parents, women, your body, your soul, your religion.
THEY WILL MAKE A HELL OF YOUR LIFE.

Avoid those who speak only of their belongings, their cars, their riches, because they are empty
in themselves.

CHOOSE  : a guy of word, for whom HONOUR has a meaning . A strong willed, A  FAITHFUL,
A FATHER FOR YOUR CHILDREN.  A compassionate companion  willing to listen to you,
to share with you, to take responsibilities,   to help you upbring your children
IN THE LOVE OF GOD and your  kind, AND THE RESPECT OF HIS LAWS.
One willing to help you find solution to your  problems, attentive to your happiness.

THE SAME APPLIES TO YOU

LISTEN WHEN HE TALKS TO YOU .
Do not cut him short .
The more  so when he is speaking to another person.
Do not be a nagging wife , always complaining, dissatisfied, spilling money hardly gained.
Temporise when he is angry.  Let him have his say when he is admonishing a child, even if he is wrong.  Wait for the right time to speak to him .
BAD WORDS HURT ,  so avoid them.
Do  not shout in front of children,  they may be traumatised.

RESPECT  YOUR HUSBAND
DO NOT CRITICISE  HIM  WITH YOUR FRIENDS.

Put your pride in the dustbin, when you are
wrong. ASK FOR HIS FORGIVENESS.
You may write a letter  if  words are difficult.

SAME FOR HIM
YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT
He can hurt you as he please WITH HIS BAD WORDS.
or a BIN  where he can  throw all his frustration, his anger, his violence.

THE PHSYCHOLOGY OF MAN AND WOMAN  IS  SO  DIFFERENT

A WOMAN LIKES TO LOOK AFTER DETAILS.
She has  ONE  big one drawer where she puts every thing she feels in it  : house and works' worries,
her emotions, her desires ,  children, family , EVERYTHING.
This is why she can look after many children , her house at the same time.

A MAN SEES BIG
He has different drawers.  He has to close  completely one drawer before opening another one. He can't mix  meal,  tv,   children cries, work..  He gets confused and  angry.
This is why he can go to war.

SHOPPING
A woman  will visit ten shops before buying something.  She likes to peruse, see to little things ,
new articles, that may be useful, decorate her home.

A man will enter one shop buys what he needs and disappear.

AT HOME

A man is satisfied with his old short, a big tv, a cosy armchair, his newspaper, his passion.
If you wait for him to notice your new curtains, your new dress, a new bedsheet.  He won't see any difference, so long  he can sleep comfortably.

A woman asks for more.  Her eyes roam 360 degrees, always looking how to better the place,
to improve things, to please every body, to make her house agreeable and warm.

Better to accept  this difference . You will be unable to change things.

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TO PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE
NO MORE LIFE OF CELIBATAIRE
Going alone to disco
Know the friends of your husband
No more drinking  parties among men every week.

Do not be stubborn.  Avoid walking alone at night. This world is no longer safe for men ,women
with drug addicts.  Some men are thugs, predators, killers.
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VERY IMPORTANT

DO NOT CONFIDE IN FRIENDS
Never trust a third person in the intimacy of your couple.
So many marriages have been broken.
LOVE  IS  FRAGILE.
Man is weak.  With  time the third person will always be better than you.
The third person will always see him nice, her dream.

You, you see the flaws of his character , and perhaps reproach  him.  You want to change him.
Man does not want himself  discovered, so imperfect. He is the  hunter . He wants to be admired,
to be the master of the house.  A wife should be his mother, his mistress, his confident
and she should be able to entertain him, amuse him, share what he likes, speak  and leave  him at peace when necessary.

To evolve through years,   a human needs space in his life. So allow  time for his passion, his  love of learning, mechanics,  and so on ...

SO  IMPORTANT
DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND

BE COMPASSIONATE
RESPECT HIM
INSTEAD  SEE   THE BETTER IN HIM AND LET HIM KNOW WHAT YOU APPRECIATE
IN HIM.

Wait for your time if you have something to say.  Tell it gently then change the subject.  Let your words make their way. He will change with time.

BEWARE  OF  WOMEN  WHO   LOOKING AT HIM IN THE EYES, LAUGH LOUDLY, TOUCH HIM,  BRAG THEIR INTELLIGENCE AND KNOWLEDGE.

BEWARE TOO SWEET WOMEN

BEWARE DESPERATE WOMEN WHO NEED A GOOD SHOULDER TO WEEP  UPON
AND SHARE THEIR MISERIES.
Your compassionate and serious husband  will be what they need most.
He will have so much pity for her.  She is so lonely, with nobody around.  He will have feelings for her.   As the intimacy grows, so his interest in you will diminish .  He feels himself so  important,
exhalirated,  like drinking  a new cup of wine,  the more so she  is  gentle and sweet, a victim.
He will feel  himself a  '  knight in bright armour '   having to save at all costs  the  unhappy
dame.
Take off your glasses. You will be the next  victim.
He will have no pity for you..

THIS WILL BE HE END OF YOUR COUPLE.

SO SORRY
KEEP HER FAR  FROM YOUR COUPLE.  -   HAVE AN EYE ON HER.
WARN  HIM OF THE DANGER
But perhaps he will laugh at you.  However, he may still feel himself strong.
BUT DON'T  TRUST TOO EASILY.

 - NO INTIMACY WITH OTHER WOMEN, SECRETARIES.

You have to fight for your couple, to pray for your couple, to bless every day your couple.
BUT DO NOT BE OVERJEALOUS

DO NOT ENDANGER YOUR LOVE - Stay by his side  but let him  breathe.
Don't overshadow him with your intelligence, your knowledge. LISTEN TO HIM.

Your husband needs you , so care for him.  Understand him and give him the advice  he needs.
Do not leave him alone in his distress .  Sometime you just have to hold his hand.

SAME RULES APPLIED TO YOU -  MUST NOT BE ONE WAY
You have to be  sincere, patient, forgive many times, not be rancorous, but with the help of JESUS,  BE SURE,  you will succeed.
Always say what you have to say gently, as if nothing., then turn the page.

KNOW HOW TO COOK  AND RECEIVE YOUR GUESTS
YOUR HUSBAND WILL BE PROUD OF YOU

SHOW YOUR AFFECTION - We all need a good hug , kisses  and we  like these old words said to us : " I LOVE YOU."

THINGS DO NOT CHANGE IN ONE DAY

BE HUMOUROUS -  LAUGH   OFTEN . A GOOD LAUGH  HERE AND THEN WILL
MAINTAIN  YOUR LOVE IN A HEALTHY STATE.

Give JESUS the first place in your  life  because He is LOVE HIMSELF.
TRY YOUR BEST  TO PRAY  IN FAMILY
HAVE A BLESSED FAMILY WHERE EVERY BODY IS AT  PEACE
ALWAYS DO ALMS TO THE POOR
HELP OTHERS IN DIFFICULTY. - HAVE A GOOD ADVICE
BE USEFUL TO THE SOCIETY YOU LIVE IN.
Your husband's love and respect for you will grow.

BE SMART - BE SIMPLE  -  BE WISE

Later in life, you will be rewarded . You will have no regrets.
Your companion will be  by  your side  and you will be happy


A  Grandmother  
  
( Believe I'm no master  myself. I was writing this text for my granddaughter later,
but I change my mind , and  choose to make it public. Perhaps it may help somebody.)
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